Give or Take

“Blessed are those who can give without remembering and take without forgetting”. – Princess Elizabeth, Asquith Bibesco. What a profound thought!

I did introspect quickly. The number of instances where I gave was remembered better to those where I have received. In reality, it is the other way round. Isn’t it? A quarter of my life, I have been only receiving things from others. Occasionally or very rarely, I have given others. Yes, this is definitely because of my limited resources, to be specific – materialistic resources. This statement is only an excuse, a lame excuse though. There were many instances when I could have been kind enough, helpful, supportive, obedient, accommodative and much more.

Exploring it further…

Life is filled with transactions. Any relationship for that matter is only a bunch of transactions. If the transactions are good enough, we pull along well. If not, the transactions would stop and the relationship would end. Reciprocating the love that we receive, the care, the affection, etc etc must be a default action to have a normal life – just, a normal life.

What if I have to enrich it…?

The question now is, which comes first – give or get. Where do I have a choice? Getting something is dependent on the other person while giving lies in my court. By all chances that’s why the phrase “Give and Take” has evolved. So it is always give first and then, take. Applying this in our day to day life would definitely create wonders.
The statement looks easy. Lets recognize and remember - it takes a lot of effort—consistent & conscious effort to do this. Probably that’s why, Eleanor Roosevelt says, “The giving of love is an education by itself”.

First step

The most important step when I post my first blog. Thanksgiving, obviously.

I profusely thank my parents for giving me this wonderful life; family; values and prnciples; education.... what not. Their contribution has made me what I am to a great extend.
Mom and Dad, I love you both.

My teachers right from my kindergarten days to my recent coach. They did the rest that my parents left. I remember my Primary schooling in Nirmala School where I got my basics right. I am not sure as to where my Headmistress and assistant headmistress are now. But I remember them well. Thank you Sr. Rosemaria and Sr. Carmanilla.
After them I had quite a few teachers who contributed to my life. Though I have not mentioned their names, I acknowledge their part in my life.
Now, I am very ably moulded by my coach Mr. Ranganathan. Hats off to him and his tremendous contribution.

I thank the Almighty for steering my life giving me not what I wanted but all that I needed.

Last but not the least, my daughter. She is a sweet one who is getting ready to make her mark here. Both of us have BIG dreams. We will see those come true one day.

My brother, husband and all other family members do play their role in my life.

Thank you all.